Looking back to only a couple of years ago, I was really out of place with myself.
I was so uncomfortable with my own company and honestly didn’t like who I was.
It took me a long time to get to where I am now, and the journey wasn’t easy.
Though getting to know myself has been the most amazing feeling.
Through many challenges, breakups, and some harsh realities I had to face, I turned inward and accepted myself, for the good and the bad.
I forgave myself for mistakes in the past and moved towards a bigger and brighter future.
I still have goals and want to grow, but I accepted that the person I am right here, right now, is enough, and I accept and love her fully.
It takes time and courage to be able to sit with yourself and truly learn who you are.
To recognize what it takes for you to be the best possible version of yourself.
Get to know the amazing and beautiful soul that you are.
Take all the time you need to do what you need to do to be your true authentic self.
Maybe you feel the happiest when you are painting or making music.
Or perhaps it’s when you are teaching or helping others.
Write down what sparks your soul and what makes you so unbelievably happy.
How do you feel when you are doing whatever it is?
Don’t feel guilty for spending time alone painting or cancelling plans to save money to take that teaching course.
There will be people who will try to convince you otherwise but know that you are in charge of your happiness, and you are not selfish for putting yourself first.
Do whatever that thing is as often as you can because it’s during these times that we feel our best.
Do you know that voice inside your head?
Well, you need to learn how to talk it.
It’s you. It’s the real you.
It’s funny when you get to the level of comfortability with yourself when you can begin to have fun alone.
You can laugh, have a conversation, and be best friends with yourself.
It sounds silly, but at the end of the day, it’s just you and your thoughts.
We think between 70,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day.
When you continuously talk bad to yourself, it becomes a habit.
Know that you are more than your thoughts and become aware of this.
You are in control of your mind and how you want to react.
It’s a powerful feeling, and I encourage you to stop fighting with your thoughts and let them in, but know that you are so much more than your mind.
Learning To Love Yourself
I believe it is particularly important to learn how to be comfortable being alone and by yourself.
If you are used to doing things always with others, I encourage you to step outside your comfort zone.
Take yourself out – go to a restaurant, and order a glass of wine and pizza and sit there and be in the moment.
You don’t need to be sitting alone on a Saturday night, upset that your friends are all busy and can’t go to the new restaurant with you.
Get dressed up and order that Uber, and go by yourself.
If you are scared because you will have nobody to talk to, then bring a book or your laptop or talk to that cute bartender (or sit at the bar staring at the cute bartender).
Just relax and be exactly where you are with no worries around you except when your goddamn pizza is going to arrive.
My challenge for you this week is to take yourself out on a date.
Learn To Enjoy Your Own Company
Learning to love yourself will take time, but it’s essential to make your happiness a priority.
Thanks for reading – Learning To Love Yourself
Through honesty, compassion, and real-life experiences, I help women learn how to be independent and confident.