I’ve been in two different places the last couple of months. I’ve been in the past, depressed, and in the future, anxious.
My mind has been filled with so many overwhelming thoughts lately that have led me down a path of questioning myself and where I am, and where I am headed.
Life has felt heavy and grey, where I’ve been at a battle with myself of getting the weight off and whenever I tried – it knocked me down so damn fast.
With the past couple of months and me settling back into Toronto and trying to find my groove again, it has honestly been a challenging yet exciting journey and one that I am open to accepting. One that I wasn’t for a while because my head was still on the road, I yearned for last year.
I’ve been in what has felt like a never-ending feeling of melancholy. Wrapped up in sorrowful thoughts and detached from the world, but most importantly detached from myself.
On such an unclear and foggy path, I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Life can get messy, and it can get twisted, tangled, and turned into so many different directions. But within that mess and within that chaos, there is still so much light at the end of the tunnel.
It’s important to remember that we create our reality and our future, which can be exactly what we want it to be. That path or ‘dream’ that you hope for is possible, but you will not get there until you make some changes.
I’m not saying that you need to have your future 100% planned out because it’s obvious that there will be many bumps and detours throughout life that will make us feel lost and stuck, whether we like it or not. We just need to determine if we will let these setbacks stop us from living our lives.
Life can be anything that we want it to be, and I think many people put a lot more pressure than they need to on how their life should be lived.
We’ve been taught our whole life that you’re supposed to go to school, get a good job, work until you’re old, and only have a couple of weeks of vacation a year. People get stuck in the rat race, and their dreams more and more get pushed to the side.
Life will drive you (crazy) if you don’t get in that front seat. Do what you want to do in life that will make you so unbelievably fulfilled and happy. Live life authentically and unapologetically every day.
Now I understand certain circumstances where you perhaps can’t quit your job that you hate because you need financial security. However, what stops you from updating your resume and applying for jobs every day and taking action?
It comes down to how bad you want it and how hard you are willing to work. Life is not meant to be easy because we’d all be living our dream life if it were.
You have complete control over the decisions you make in your life, the people you hang out with, the things you spend your money on, how you spend your time, and the list goes on.
Next time you’re unsure what to do, remember to hop into that front seat and drive your own damn life.
If you constantly think negatively about where you are going or what is going to happen – then the chances are, you are right. But if you change your thoughts to my life is beautiful, and I am the creator of my reality, then watch how quickly your life changes.
“If you are going down a road and don’t like what is in front of you, and look behind you and don’t like what you see, get off the road. Create a new path!”
– Maya Angelou
We often are so resistant to new beginnings and avoid changing directions. We are comfortable and content on our path and would rather play it safe than step into unfamiliar territory.
The thing about this path, your comfort zone, is that it starts to get familiar, too familiar – where it begins to feel repetitive and dull.
We have these blinders that force us to believe that the life we are living is all there is. And we accept the path we are on, regardless if it is the life we want to live.
You continue down this road for weeks, months, and years until one day you realize that you’re lost and hit a dead end. You’ve gone down the path, you know, not realizing that there were so many different and better paths in front of you if you looked around.
This dead-end is the universe telling you that it is time to change ways. Take off the blinders. Stop only seeing the road ahead. You’ll notice all the opportunities around you when you finally do, welcoming you in with open arms.
You’ll notice that you actually may get to your destination faster – and that the road you were on was doing nothing but holding you back from your true potential.
SO next time you’re feeling lost and stuck, change directions and take that next exit. Nothing will change if you stay on the path you are on.
If you want to grow and live life unapologetically and fiercely independently, then you need to make a change.
Now to change directions, you need to be open to doing it! You need to recognize that it may be challenging, scary, and different, but you need to be willing to let it all in.
The great thing about your plan changing is that you can do something better. Changing directions is exciting and liberating and full of endless possibilities.
We all know the classic saying of when one door closes, another one opens, and I think it’s about time we run into that new door. Stop worrying about that door that is shut or the path you are no longer on – it closed for a reason.
Focus on where you are going and not on who’s coming with you.
If you want to grow, then be radically open to change and new beginnings and new mindsets. Get in that front seat, change directions, and be open to new opportunities.
“There is light at the end of every tunnel. Some tunnels just happen to be longer than others.”
It’s been a long couple of months for me personally, but I’m finally at that point where I’m excited for what is to come and where I am going to end up because the blinders are off. Despite all the challenges, and heartbreak, and the unknown – I’ve pulled myself out of the darkness and can see the light at the end of tunnel and let me tell you, it looks pretty damn good at the end of that road.
Thanks for reading – How to Find Direction in Life When You Feel Lost & Stuck
Through honesty, compassion, and real-life experiences, I help women learn how to be independent and confident.