You know those days or months when you do not feel like yourself? You have this feeling inside of you that you know something is off, and it hits you all of a sudden – all these emotions and feelings.
For me, this looks and feels like being lazy and sluggish, tired and unmotivated, and sadder than usual. When I feel this way, I have learned to stop myself before I go any further and go back to my ‘Who Is She?’ list.
A WHAT LIST??
Let me explain it to you, my friends! This is a list of things that I KNOW I need to do to be the best possible version of myself. For me to feel my best not only physically but mentally.
So, what exactly does this list entail?
She wakes up early
She eats healthy
She goes for walks
She has a cute outfit on
She connects with family and friends
This is my list when if I am feeling off, unmotivated, or depressed that I will go back to and go through every point and write down when the last time I have done those things are.
Let me provide you with some examples.
Mood: I am feeling sluggish and extremely lazy.
Why? I have eaten like shit the past two days and haven’t moved my body.
Solution: Having a healthy breakfast and meal prepping my lunch and dinners for the next couple of days and getting up and doing a quick 15-minute workout.
Mood: I am feeling really down and unmotivated.
Why? I have been laying around in sweats watching endless amounts of Netflix.
Solution: Taking a shower, putting makeup on and a cute outfit and going outside for a walk to be out in nature.
Mood: I am feeling really sad and depressed.
Why? I haven’t journaled or listened to an inspirational podcast or practiced gratitude.
Solution: Pulling out my journal and writing down five things I am grateful for or putting on a guided meditation to bring awareness back to the present moment.
It’s important to catch yourself during these times and take a step back and truly understand why you feel this way and why you don’t feel like yourself.
Most importantly, you need to learn about what you, what SHE NEEDS. Take a couple of minutes here and make your ‘Who Is She?’ list. Also, you can even take a step further and breakdown your list by how often you need to do these things.
What does your ideal day look like?
\What makes you happy?
What makes you feel good?
What do you know helps your anxiety?
Everyone’s list will be different, and only you know what makes you feel the best. When you recognize that it’s been weeks since you’ve journaled or days since you’ve moved your body, it not only brings awareness to what is missing but then clicks in your mind that you need to take action. You have taken the first step in accepting why you feel a certain way, but now it’s time to work on the WHY!
Put this list on a sticky note on your desk, in your journal, or on your phone. Put it somewhere that you aren’t going to write it down and never go back to it. For me, this list started on my phone because I knew no matter where I was, my phone was probably right beside me.
When I say her, I am referring to your best self. PUT HER FIRST. LOVE HER.
If you know that you are going to feel like shit not working out after work, do not feel bad about cancelling your plans or saying no to going to dinner with a friend. If you only have time to go on a walk on your lunch break and you know this is the one thing that de-stresses you, say no to that co-worker who insists you have lunch together.
You should never have to apologize for putting your needs first. Make your list and refer to it every time you are not feeling like yourself. She deserves it.
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