Your self-esteem, and how you feel and think about yourself, is one of the most important things in this world.
Having low self-esteem is truly what is preventing you from being happy and being the best possible version of yourself.
It is only when you start to believe in yourself and recognize your own superpowers, that you will break that shield, and start living a happy and fulfilled life.
When you start to see how amazing and unique and capable you are, you will be able to carry that into your everyday life.
I used to have really low self-esteem where I struggled with confidence daily, from not liking certain physical features, to not being confident in my work abilities.
This additionally looked like, always thinking others were out to get to me, constantly criticizing myself, and beating myself up if I made a mistake.
All of these beliefs stemmed from me not knowing myself and not being comfortable in my own skin.
Instead of celebrating everything I have accomplished and accepting myself for the unique and amazing soul that I am – I focused on my weaknesses, and they did nothing but weigh me down.
Having low self-esteem has held me back in life in so many ways, and has sabotaged some really good opportunities, because I was simply not confident enough in myself, and my abilities.
It wasn’t until I stepped outside my comfort zone and turned inward, and got to know myself, that I began to see my worth.
It took me a long time to get here but having low self-esteem and acknowledging it, has been a blessing in disguise because it forced me to start my self-discovery journey.
It’s how I took my power back and has made my life so much happier, and that is what I wish for you.
Life is filled with so many obstacles that even I have some tough days and even months.
For me to maintain my own self-esteem and ensure I continuously improve it; these are six things that I do and recommend for anyone looking to improve their self-esteem –
Having goals and wanting to succeed is one thing, but when this stops you from living your best life, and constantly stressing you out when you don’t achieve perfection, that is when it becomes a problem.
I always thought that being a perfectionist was who I needed to be to make things happen and get people to like me.
Though, that is not the case at all.
You need to learn that not everything you do will be perfect and sometimes not even close.
When you wait and wait for something to look perfect, to sound perfect, or to act perfect, you are ultimately just wasting so much time.
You need to learn to be okay and happy with what you have done and where you are at.
Working yourself to exhaustion and trying to prove something to yourself and even others is a lot of pressure to have on yourself.
You need to change your mindset and recognize you are enough.
I believe that everybody has something unique or special they are good at.
Firstly, stop focusing on your weaknesses and start thinking about your strengths If you are struggling with finding out what you are good at, you can ask your close friends and family, and even co-workers.
Let them help you unleash your unknown superpowers.
Think about what hobbies you enjoy, what you have gotten compliments on about, or if you have ever helped someone in something specific.
When you start to focus on your strengths and spend your time doing things you enjoy and know you are good at, then you will begin to feel a sense of purpose and happiness.
However, if you still can’t find something you are good at then maybe you need to do more training sessions, get a mentor, or spend more hours practicing something you enjoy.
All that matters is you tried and stepped outside your comfort zone.
How To Become The Best Possible Version Of Yourself
Exercising is without a doubt, one of the top things that helps improve my self-esteem.
When you are working out, you are in the present moment.
You are focusing on your movements, your muscles, and the workout you are doing.
For me, if I am ever feeling anxious or down, moving my body whether that be a full-body workout or as simple as a walk, gets me out of my head and really boosts my overall mood.
Exercising not only has the short-term benefit of enhancing your mood but if you are committed and dedicate time every day, you will start to see the effect on your body.
Never have I ever finished a workout and regretted it.
Instead, you feel a sense of accomplishment. Dedicate time to move your body, do a workout class, or go for a walk with your friend.
Four Daily Habits To Make You Happier
Do you know that voice inside your head? Well, you need to learn how to talk it. It’s you.
It’s the real you.
It’s funny when you get to the level of comfortability with yourself when you can begin to have fun alone.
You can laugh, have a conversation, and be best friends with yourself. It sounds silly, but at the end of the day, it’s just you and your thoughts.
We think between 70,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. When you continuously talk bad to yourself, it becomes a habit. Know that you are more than your thoughts and become aware of this.
When you have those toxic thoughts telling you that you aren’t smart enough, or talented enough, or pretty enough – recognize them when they first appear. Then say SEE YAH!
YOU are in control of your mind and how you want to react.
It’s a powerful feeling, and I encourage you to stop fighting with your thoughts and let them in. but know that you are so much more than your mind.
Start telling yourself that you are beautiful and amazing, and capable of all those things that you want to do. Start telling yourself that you are beautiful and amazing, and capable of all those things that you want to do.
You just have to believe.
Learn To Enjoy Your Own Company
If you are hanging around people who bring you down and make you feel worse about yourself, it is time to make new friends.
Having a supportive group of friends is so important in helping you be the best possible version of yourself.
Find friends who support your goals, celebrate your achievements, and love you for your true authentic self.
It’s 2020. There’s no more time for fake friends.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Stop comparing your chapter one to someone’s chapter ten.
You need to learn that those fitness models, or successful businesswoman, all started in the same place as us. They don’t have some special secret or more hours in the day than us.
Instead, we are just seeing them ten steps ahead of where we are in our journey. So, focus on your own goals and what you need to do to achieve them.
Instead of only focusing on how other people are doing or how much money they have, focus all your time on your goals and dreams.
Focus on your happiness and you will start to see a shift in your life.
You will start to see a shift in how you view yourself and slowly start to improve your self-esteem.
Get in your mind that your goals aren’t stupid or unreachable or never going to happen.
You can accomplish anything, but you have to be hungry for it and fight for it and be willing to push and dig.
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Thanks for reading – 6 Tips To Improve Your Self-Esteem
Through honesty, compassion, and real-life experiences, I help women learn how to be independent and confident.