When I was younger and heard the term ‘an independent woman,’ I immediately thought of a rich and successful businesswoman, who owns her own company, has that big house, fancy car, and designer clothes.
My mind automatically went to the materialistic aspects of that person rather than their wellbeing and inner world.
We are taught at such a young age that success is determined by how rich and beautiful you are.
Living in an always-on digital world where we continuously see girls highlight reels and everyone is driven by consumption – it’s hard not to think that this is what being happy and prosperous looks like.
Having all of that stuff does not make you an independent woman, nor does it always make you happy.
Being an independent woman means living the life that YOU desire.
Making your own decisions and confident in the choices that you make.
Putting yourself first and not waiting around for permission or for things to find you.
It means living life so unapologetically free and never apologizing for the way that you are.
That is an independent woman. A woman so strong that her happiness depends on nobody but herself.
This isn’t just physically and confident in her looks and body, but it is about having self-confidence. A woman that strongly believes in her values and skills and speaks with certainty. She sets her mind to things and is confident in her abilities to accomplish whatever it is. Having confidence comes from within and recognizing that you are more your thoughts is the first step.
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Secondly, an independent woman is not afraid to go out alone and enjoys her own company.
Going to dinner or the movies by herself is not a problem, and she doesn’t need anyone holding her hand to get there.
She can still choose to do certain activities with friends and be around people, but it isn’t the primary factor in making her happy. She doesn’t fear being alone.
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With life often filled with many problems and bumps in the road, she is confident solving her own problems. She may ask her friends and family for advice or additional support, but at the end of the day, it is her decision.
No matter what the problem is, whether it be big or small – she has confidence in her decision-making skills and her abilities to overcome whatever problem it is.
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Having goals is one thing, but an independent woman is goal-oriented and takes action on the goals that she creates. This woman has weekly, monthly, and yearly goals and has a time frame and an actionable and realistic plan to get there and knows what to do.
Her goals help her stay organized and become the best possible version of herself. Also, she doesn’t dream small and has big goals for herself, and she’s confident in accomplishing them.
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Next, an independent woman is not afraid to be her true, authentic self every day. Being unapologetically herself means being the same person she is behind closed doors in front of her family and friends. Thus, she doesn’t worry about others’ opinions or society’s standards of what a female is supposed to be.
She dresses the way she wants, speaks her mind, and is her quirky, unique self. She lives the life she wants.
It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to improve herself or work on her goals, but it does mean she has entirely accepted herself right now for the woman she is.
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Stepping outside her comfort zone is something she often does. She takes risks and knows sometimes it won’t be simple, but she isn’t afraid to step into the unknown or do things that make her uncomfortable or out of her routine.
Most importantly, she knows that stepping outside her comfort zone is key to her self-growth.
An independent woman who continuously steps outside her comfort zone and into the unfamiliarity is what enables her to get to that next phase in her life.
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A strong independent woman is confident in making her own decisions and doesn’t need others’ approval. She puts her needs first and does what she wants and what is best for her life.
She values her friends and family’s opinions, but she doesn’t let their decision influence her choices and actions, even if it may upset some people.
She does what is best for her higher self and knows that to live the life she truly wants and be happy, making her own decisions will set her on the right path.
An independent woman says no and says it often. She does this in no way to be rude or selfish but values her time and her priorities enough to put herself first.
If she needs to work on her goals, save money, or simply doesn’t want to do something, she stands her ground and politely says no.
Saying no takes time and confidence, but it comes when you learn to start putting yourself first and how valuable your time truly is.
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Waiting around for that new job or new opportunity is not an option for her. If she wants something, she goes after it will full force.
She doesn’t wait around for something or someone to appear at her front door magically; she knows what she wants, how she has to get there, and confidently goes after it.
It may be challenging or require her to step outside her comfort zone, but she knows that what she wants is out there, and her determination and perseverance will get her there.
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Lastly, self-care isn’t just having wine in the tub and pampering yourself, but it’s taking time to focus on your emotional, physical, and mental needs.
A strong, independent woman knows when to unwind and relax and charge her body and mind.
It may mean she needs to spend some time by herself, meditate, journal, exercise, or even spend the day sleeping.
Self-care looks different for everyone, and you need to find what works best for you.
To be the best possible version of herself, she does not neglect self-care and dedicates time specifically for this.
These 10 habits of an independent woman are what make woman so strong, beautiful, and SO powerful.
SO NOW WHAT??
It will take time and you will have to learn to change your mindset and step outside your comfort zone.
Go through the 10 habits of an independent woman again and decide which ones you can start with and take those small steps to get there.
Thanks for reading – 10 Habits Of An Independent Woman
Rose x
Through honesty, compassion, and real-life experiences, I help women learn how to be independent and confident.
It would seem that your advice is multi generational and could be applied by women of all ages, it should especially be read by young women who are starting out. Keep up the posts.